The other night Pip and I were discussing what it is we think our role as parents is, or should be.
And as we discussed it longer and longer I realised that although we both come from different upbringings (couldn't be more different really!) we have such similar ideas.
Perhaps this is the reason we were drawn together in the first place, or we've become this over our time spent together, I'm not sure, but I'm so comforted by the knowledge that should something happen to me, our children will grow up exactly as we both would have liked.
You can't make your children be something they're not, but you can guide them and teach them so they are aware of themselves and the impact they make as they go.
So after our much lengthy discussion, Pip and I wrote down a list of what we thought were the important things we as their parents need to teach them before they fledge our nest..........
(they are in no particular order btw)
1. have self confidence to be themselves without being arrogant
2. be able to cook 7 different meals for themselves from scratch
3. have empathy for others
4. have an understanding that things aren't just given, you need to earn them
5. that to have love you must give love
6. to be able to save
7. to be respectful of their surroundings
8. to enjoy the simple things life has to offer
9. to be a good listener
10. to be able to ask for help when they need it
I know this is only the beginning and the list will no doubt grow as they get older, bu it's been good to put things on paper and know that we are on the same page, heading in the same direction.
Have you thought about what you want to pass on? Is there something you were taught that you'll never forget?